I hope you have had a relaxing, fun time over the Christmas and New Year festivities – and I wish you all the best for 2015!!
I’ve had an amazing time – I hadn’t planned to do as little as I ended up doing – a lot of being with friends, laughing, dancing, some body process and Bars exchanges, yummy food – and way less computer and internet than usual, which I really enjoyed!
I unexpectedly spent several days over the New Year with two lovely friends, Valerye and David (you see us here!!), and I wanted to share a tool which I wished I had remembered at the time(!)
The three of us had spent a lovely expansive, fun couple of days together – and suddenly one evening that changed for me. I hit what felt like a brick wall of irritation, upset, hurt, jealousy and anger with my two lovely friends! I can’t quite explain it now, as I am so not in it – and at the time it felt really real, and also that it would never go away!
In the moment, it also felt as though I was completely right, and as though the two of them were doing something completely wrong!
To be quite honest, this type of situation is one that in the past I would have encountered much more with my partner or boyfriend – however, I also find that spending more time with friends can lead to those same emotions coming up sometimes!!
Well, my friends are very lovely, we ended up talking it all through, sharing our experiences, and then running some Access Consciousness body processes that really shifted things and left us all feeling closer and more harmonious.
I also realised that if I had handled it differently, we wouldn’t have had to do all of that, and they wouldn’t have had to deal with it all!
Of course I had the tools that I needed to transform the situation in the moment – and that’s what I would like to share with you!
We can always ask a question to open things up – and in this situation, a really good question is “What energy can I be that would change this rightaway?” or “What can I be do or say that would change this rightaway?” (and that question even rhymes!!)
My experience of asking a question in a situation like this is that it immediately takes you out of the “victim” mentality, reminds you that you have a choice, and also somehow mysteriously shifts things so the stuckness is no longer there!
It’s like we’re saying to the universe, and to ourselves – this isn’t working for me, give me something different!
And here’s another question for me!! What would it take for me to remember these tools another time? Much gratitude to lovely Valerye and David for working it out anyway, and for continuing friendship, fun and laughter!
And this is what it’s about for me…….yes, I did have the tools to not create that situation……..and somehow I chose not to use them………..I gained awareness through choosing not to use them, and now am asking the question “what would it take for me to remember next time?” and “what would it take for me to remember to use these tools way more of the time?”
And it’s true – the more I use these tools and ask questions, the more my life expands and I have that joy, delight and sense of fun. And as time goes on, using these tools more, the amount of time I spend in the expansion and yumminess increases, and the amount of negativity, sadness and stuckness decreases.
If you’d like some of that, just start using the simple tools and questions I’ve been sharing here today and in my newsletter / blog over the last few months and see what changes….
And if you’d like more than that, here are some opportunities to dive deeper in different classes in the next couple of months!